Comments: "For most people, wanting to know the cold truth about the world is way, way down the list.”
This is so true. I would add that different generations emphasize one of these factors more than than others. For the age 60 and above, the early Boomers and their parents, facts remain very important and feelings, while important, are thought not very reliable. Emotions are to be controlled and overcome, they are not to be a guide.
For post-Boomers, especially those born after 1980 or so, feelings are predominant, and the younger of that group the more important feelings are. This is also the cohort that was raised in the thick of the self-esteem movement, being told they are special (you know, just like everyone else). They received praise and rewards just for showing up (participation trophies, anyone?).
They are very, very heavily into social signaling by where they live and where they vacation and by what their children do. They absolutely dominate their kids, who typically have little choice in what activities they will do and when.
The younger sets of this group, born after the early 90s, have also learned (having been actually taught) that the cult of victimhood is the most important status of all. They are on high alert for reasons to be offended and when they are, it is for slights, real or imagined, that mystify the 60+ cohort.
Victimhood demands recompense so there is no hope of forgiveness unless the offender crawls on his belly like a cold reptile to beg for it. But forgiveness is never unconditional. The hatchet may be buried, but the handle protrudes skyward so it can be easy to recover.
It is very much and honor-shame dynamic where all interactions are zero-sum. Where they are on the totem pole if always of concern and they are acutely aware of who is above or below. And woe betide those whom they think are below.
I think of it as the "Veruca Salt" generation. They are demand oriented. Their magical thinking is that merely because they want something, it should be granted. They react strongly negatively to being asked for facts and logic to support their contention because in their minds, "I feel very strongly about this so why are you asking for facts?"
Posted by plus.google.com/104841162830331053592 at August 23, 2016 7:41 AM
plugoogiecojoioionln,
That is absolutely brilliant. I'm a WWII baby, and the motives and viewpoint of boomers and younger have been absolutely mystifying to me since at least the '60s. Elevating your feelings above the realities of gravity, to offer just one example, is just a luxury I can't afford.
And yup, my primary response to the helpless is "Get the fuck over it."
You nailed it.
Posted by Rob De Witt at August 23, 2016 10:34 AM